I Need Help To Stop My Divorce
I have been going through an awful stretch in my relationship and my love seems to be coming to an end! I am constantly feeling devastated wondering what I can do next, I know that I am not the only person who is going through this at this time but realise that I need help to stop my divorce.”
First thing you must get straight in your mind before you can act is that there are lots of things you can do that will help stop your divorce and if you act on the signs of any problems then you can make corrections and prevent things even getting that far. Secondly you are not on your own a huge number of couple shave travelled this road, found ways to reconcile their differences to save their marriage, and plenty who could not but still went on to find happiness.
Before you start to try to salvage your marriage you must come to the realisation that however much you want to save it, you may not be able to do so. This sounds a gloomy prediction but in reality it just prepares you for all the possible outcomes.
As I have discussed in other articles, what you need to get is a circle of trusted friends and family members around you as a support group and to give you some loving advice. If you do not wish to do that, or it is not possible for you to open yourself up to friends and family, then consider the other option of seeking out marriage counselling. Marriage counsellors have the advantages of being anonymous, very discreet and above all experienced in helping people in your situation. No matter what is causing friction in your marriage, even to the point of your partner’s adultery, they will have the experience to be able to offer you help, advice and therapy.
Through this help many marriages have been brought back from the brink, there are plenty of different guidance opportunities, from on-line help such as we offer here, though church counselling to professional counselling so it need not cost you much. Even if you are forced to continue on the downward spiral towards divorce then the advice you gain will be invaluable to you, before you see a divorce attorney
While going through your chosen course of counselling the major thing to understand is that you must stop arguing this will only make matters worse, because you are trying to impose your feelings on your partner and trying to make them feel something they may not. You must change your way of thinking and realise that you your fight is not against your other half, but against the possibility of separation. Constant arguing between you will make it less, rather that more likely that you will be in a position to be able to stop the divorce.
Finding common ground is always the best, or only, way to start, by concentrating on the common areas of agreement and finding out the truth about where your relationship stands now is vital if you are to have any chance to be able to stop my divorce. The tempting thing to do is to start out by defending yourself but even if you are right it will not help you, find out what you can agree on and stick to that, the more you can agree on the closer you will get to your wish to “stop my divorce”. Counselling either on your own, or preferably together, will focus your efforts and allow you to understand how to communicate with each other in a way you possibly have not been able to do for some time.